
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Picture of us at reunion...

I'm Still Standin'



Cross Country Sexpot
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Turkey Day 2008
We had a great time talking about how our families celebrated Thanksgiving when we were kids and how we see ourselves celebrating once Tobe's old enough to join us at the table. This brought up another topic (and reminded me once again of how much I love my husband). Ethan made it very clear that family dinners at the actual dinner table were very important in his house (as they were in mine) and that it's a tradition he'd like to continue. I reassured him that as soon as Tobe starts solids, every dinner will be at the table because I really don't want him launching food all over the living room furniture and carpet.
I had promised Tobe he could make his way out anytime after I shoveled the last forkful of dessert into my mouth, but Dad wants him to chill out until Sunday so we can attend his TWENTIETH HIGH SCHOOL REUNION this Saturday night. I had to put that in all caps just to emphasize how old Ethan is. TWENTY YEARS!!!!! Luckily it's low key, so I don't have to get all gussied up. I really don't know how I'd go about gussying the bump at this point, anyway. Vinyl siding? Maybe I could get Christo to wrap it up like the Reichstag. My only request would be that he use the same pretty saffron color he did for the Gates project.
No signs of imminent labor to report. Saw the OB Wednesday and the ol' cervix is still closed, though very thin and soft. The countdown commences. In just under 7 days (or less), we shall be 3. Sur-fucking-real.
I hope everyone had a delicious, relaxing Thanksgiving. I'll try to post daily updates until D-day, but if I disappear for a few days without a trace, I'm sure you can figure out where I am and what I'm doing.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Finally Some Face Pics!
Went to the perinatologist today for my weekly ultrasound. Tobe is A-OK. Good heart rate, doing his breathing exercises/hiccups, and weighing in at 6 lbs 6 oz. I figured he'd be up around 7 lbs already (big babies run in the family), but he's well within normal range. With gestational diabetes pregnancies, they worry about the baby being too big. Clearly not a problem here.
He's got his arm and/or hands mashed into his face in the pics below (I think you can make out fingers in the second). However, you can pick out his forehead, nose, left cheek, left eye and upper lip.


We are so ridiculously ready for this kid. Ethan even practiced diapering and swaddling my teddy bear last night. He did a fantastic job. Tonight he even read a few chapters of one of my 1,000 parenting books, bless him.

Speaking of babies, here's my furry son, Fred, with the "baby" I made him.
When he's not snuggling it, he's biting its throat and shaking it violently.
I've stopped calling it "Baby" for obvious reasons...
The Maids are coming again tomorrow. Will be fab to have a clean house for Turkey Day. The place is actually in pretty decent shape since the last time they were here 2 weeks ago. I hope they appreciate it.
The Oldsmobile is being cranky. The battery is clearly not dead and yet the engine won't turn over. Therefore Ethan has to take the Toyota to work tomorrow while I call the mechanic to tow it and have a look. Hopefully it's something simple and not too expensive. If it's expensive, we'll probably just junk it.
This means I'm without a car tomorrow, so I get to hang around while other women clean my house. That's kind of awkward. At least they won't be here nearly as long as last time.Looking forward to a relaxing 4-day holiday weekend with my sweetie.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
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Friday, November 21, 2008
First Nursery Pics!

Andy, Aidan and Ethan in front of the finished masterpiece.
Aidan supervised.

My favorite piece of artwork. I still want to find a sign that says
"Welcome To The Jungle" for the door, but haven't managed yet.

Some of the other artwork. There are 2 more pieces like this
placed around the room. They match the crib bedding.

Window valance, rocking chair, and a glimpse of the crap to be cleared out.

And VOILA!!! The crib! There's an area rug to match the accent rug under the crib. The pic doesn't do it justice. It's super soft and shaggy. Sometimes I pop into the nursery just to dig my toes into it.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
I'm Officially Over Being Pregnant Now (Slightly Graphic)
Tobe spends his entire day napping between bouts of pummeling my cervix with both fists. I saw him on the ultrasound Monday. Not once did he move his hands from in front of his face. He looked every bit the boxer he is. "Keep those hands up!"
He really hates the Braxton Hicks contractions. As if it's not cramped enough in there already, now he's being squeezed several times a day. He follows each BH with a brutal round of punching, kicking and stretching. He loves to brace his feet against the back of my uterus and shove his bony butt out as far as he can. I smack it (gently of course) when he does that.
I'm soooo very ready for him to come out. I look forward to enjoying his presence in prescription painkiller-induced bliss.
The nursery is coming together. Got the carpets down, the curtains and some decorations up and most of the extraneous crap cleared out. Our friends Abi and Andy are coming over Friday night to help put the crib together. I believe Andy, in addition to being a theater prof, is also a master carpenter, if I'm not mistaken. When I took one look at the crib instructions, I knew immediately that Ethan and I would probably kill each other if we tried to do it ourselves.
I figure he and Andy will work together much better and with far less frustration than he and I would. Not that he and I aren't a great team. It's just that two people trying to do something neither is good at is a recipe for cursing and/or tears--especially when one is exhausted and cranky from being 9 mos preggo and cries at the drop of a hat.
Once the crib is up and I've put the mattress and bedding in, I'll snap some pics to post here. The bedding, decorations and carpet go fantastically with the pale yellow walls. It looks very cheery and sunny.
The walls were that color when we moved in, so we didn't even have to paint. However, the walls are plaster, so it makes hanging pictures and such difficult. Luckily, there were already 5 nails in the wall perfectly placed for 5 of the decorations that required hanging. The rest can go up with fun-tac.
I'm off to order groceries online now. I'm also over waddling up and down the aisles until this kid comes out.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Crap on a stick!
I'm terrified of the those first few minutes between them pulling him out and telling me he's absolutely fine once they've suctioned all the goop out of him and given him his APGARs. I really need him to be OK from the get go. I know c-section babies sometimes need a little breathing assistance at the start, but I want him to come out wailing and red-faced and furious and I want them to wrap him up like a little sausage and hand him to his daddy so I can dote on him for a few minutes before he gets whisked off to the nursery and I get wheeled to recovery. I'm not sure if I can handle things going any other way, and I hope and pray it's a non-issue.
Then, when they bring him to me to nurse for the first time, and I've accepted the fact that he really is here and really is OK, I'll quietly scold him for the 9 months of worry and panic he put me through, not to mention the daily beatings.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Tuesday Blather
Saw my regular OB today. She says everything's still locked up, but the baby is "way down there." This was evidenced by the fact that she was feeling the top of his head through my cervix rather than just inside my pelvic bone like last time. TMI, I know. I just wanted to put that out there since it's the full moon tomorrow.
I think I'll not only make it through that, but perhaps through Thanksgiving as well. I picked up Whole Foods' holiday menu today. Fantastic pre-cooked full course turkey dinner for less money than it would take me to buy all the separate ingredients and I don't have to cook it--just heat it in the oven. AMAZING. If my folks decide to come up, I'll order the meal for 8 so we'll have plenty of leftovers. If they don't, and it's just Ethan and I, I might order the dinner for 2 or still order the dinner for 8 so we don't have to cook for a whole week.
Don't get me wrong, I LOVE Thanksgiving and cooking Thanksgiving dinner. I just can't manage it this year for obvious reasons. I fear that the Whole Foods version will be so delicious that I will be tempted never to cook my yearly feast again.
I'm excited about our first holiday season as a family. Trying to keep myself from going overboard for Hanukkah. I want to decorate like crazy and take lots of pictures, but Tobe'll only be 2-3 weeks old and will most likely sleep through the whole thing. Also, I'll still be recovering from surgery. :( Next year, maybe.
Speaking of Hanukkah, Isaac Mizrahi has made whole line of Hanukkah-related doggie accessories. I bought Lulu and Fred a squeaky menorah and dreidel. They were only $4.99 ea. They love them. $10 well spent!
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Random Tidbits
Now we just have a good amount of clutter to purge. You should see what we've thrown out and freecycled already with help from our friend, Susannah. BIG Thanks, Suzie Q!!!! I have 2 weeks to work at that little by little until the cleaning crew comes again. I'm not kidding myself that we're going to get through all 4 closets in that time. I see that as an ongoing project for the next year. I just want to get the nursery together and clear up the remaining clutter in the nursery, bedroom and living room.
I must be honest, I felt slightly guilty about paying people to clean my house while I sat at Starbucks and addressed holiday cards. It's a treat for now while I'm too preggo or busy with baby to do it myself, but it is an added expense when we're trying to eliminate expenses.
Hopefully once the baby's here and settled in I can maintain things myself and just hire someone once or twice a year to do a giant spring cleaning so I don't have to move furniture and scrub baseboards, etc. As I've always said of myself, "For a socialist, I sure have a shitty work ethic."
On the other hand, it did feel kinda cool to pretend I was a rich corporate wife who runs errands and shops while other people do her less savory tasks. Nice to get a glimpse of how the other half lives once in a blue moon. It was a big job today, so I made sure to tip the crew double the suggested amount.
Lulu supervised them in my absence. She's an excellent foreman, hence her nickname "The Foreman." She spent the last few months watching construction crews and landscaping crews out the bay window all day long making sure they were working hard and not lallygagging.
Fred went around sniffing everything after the ladies left. He appeared confused as if to say, "This does not smell like my house." To his credit, I do not believe he's peed on anything to rectify that just yet.
So, things are coming together. My house is actually clean enough that people could drop in unannounced, which is usually my biggest fear. We cleared out a lot of junk in the nursery and put down the area rug. Just need to put the crib together, hang the curtains and decorations.
In politics, Keith Olbermann gave a fantastically touching special comment last night regarding the anti-gay marriage bills which passed in several states last week. You can check it out here. Perfect example of why this man is on my "list." That, and his impeccable grooming. Guys should always wear ties. No exceptions.
Speaking of my "list," can I just say that "Renegade" is the SEXIEST Secret Service nickname of ALL TIME???
Sunday, November 09, 2008
Hidden Messages in my Stretch Marks

Thoth: Why didn't I think of that when we were
trying to come up with "T" names?

Dead Man with bird on stick. Those are the horns of a deadly
bison in the upper right corner. It's hard out here for a caveman...
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Oh Sweet Decadence!!!
It is so not cheap, but so, soooooooooo worth it. I hired "The Maids" for now, but will ask around for recommendations for independent contractors who might be cheaper. We'll see how they do. They have super-fancy Ghost Buster looking equipment. They might be so thorough that I keep them on, but downgrade to once a month.
I spent hours yesterday surfing the net looking for pretty, sparkly "push presents" even though I won't be pushing. Although I'd love a bauble, not having to lift a finger to clean my house for at least 3 mos was too good to pass up.
Now I just have to bust my ass over the next 2 days to get the apartment decent enough that I'm not humiliated when the crew shows up. Or just hand them a key and run out of the apartment before they see what lies in wait for them. After that, all I should have to worry about are dishes and laundry. BLISS!!!!!
Thursday, November 06, 2008
35 Week Belly Pic
First of all, it not only features no makeup, but wet hair as well. HOT!!
Secondly, do you see the size of that thing??? How am I able to remain upright? How has he not dropped to the floor with a wet plop yet? I would think the laws of physics would demand that I remain on bed rest for the duration. Or hanging upside down from the ankles.
I'm astonished that the female body was meant to be this malleable. If this kid gets any bigger, I fully expect him to emerge clutching a graduate diploma in one hand and a briefcase in the other.
And let me hasten to add that that's all baby, uterus, fluid and other pregnancy-related gunk! I'm still weighing in at 5 lbs under the weight I was at my first OB visit.
Oh--I misspoke in an earlier post regarding the full moon on 11/13. I'll be 36 weeks, not 37. I might just eke through it OK!

Little Bit o' Nesting



Pregnancy Update
I'm now on 2 units of insulin at bedtime to control my fasting blood sugars in the morning. My post-meals are fine, but my fastings were creeping up the last week or so. No biggie, the doc reassured me.
As a precaution, I'll be going in to the perinatologist's weekly for baby monitoring and ultrasound just to make sure the GD isn't affecting his lung development, which appeared to be good and strong this past Monday. I could see his little belly and ribcage going in and out as he breathed amniotic fluid. It was adorable. The last thing the doc said before he left the exam room was "You're gonna be fine!" Bless his heart.
As mentioned on Ethan's blog, we went for a childbirth orientation and maternity ward tour last night. Very informative and nice to have a visual of exactly where we need to go come D-Day. It ended with a peek at the "just hatched" babies in the nursery (they spend some time there for checkups before rooming in with their moms). There were 3 in there who were just adorable and in different stages of contentment/irate anger.
The maternity nurse who led the presentation made a comment that the ward fills up on the full moon. I had never heard this before. I did some extensive online searching when I got home to see a) when the next full moon was (11/13--I'll be 37 weeks!!!) and b) how much truth there was to the whole thing.
The online consensus is that studies have proven that this is just a myth. However, if a maternity nurse at MY hospital who has worked there for over TWENTY YEARS tells me that, in her experience, the ward fills up on the full moon I'm gonna damn well believe her. I will be hyper vigilant come November 13th just in case. The next full moon will be December 12 (our original due date), but Tobe'll be out by then anyway.
Lastly, I rested on my back for a moment when I crawled into bed last night before flipping over and arranging my 1 thousand pillows. I looked down at my belly to see the weirdest freaking sight I have ever seen. It was sticking out 2-3 times further than normal and came to a hair-splitting point. It looked exactly like a torpedo. It didn't hurt and didn't feel like the baby was stretching or anything--he was just in a wacky position.
I SCREAMED for Ethan to come look before it went away (even though he was only 3 ft from the bed at the computer desk). I can't remember his exact reaction, but I believe it was something to the effect of, "JESUS!!!!! LOOK AT THAT!!!!!" And he was looking at it from the opposite side! I can only imagine what it looked like from that angle. Tobin must have had his legs fully extended, but I really couldn't feel specific body parts.
I've seen my stomach take on some funky shapes over the last few months, but that one took the cake. I really didn't think I could stretch that far.
The Origins of President Mack Daddy
The Urban Dictionary has many colorful definitions for the phrase mack daddy. The longer term, which I have shortened, is "long-legged mack daddy." This comes directly from a vitriolic, racist, anti-Obama sermon from the Rev. James David Manning . It's so over the top, so ridiculous, so hateful that it's--dare I say--hysterically funny. See for yourself. I can only hope that those folks standing silently behind him all secretly voted for Barack on Tuesday.
We first heard Rev. Manning say this earlier in the year. "Obama is a long-legged mack daddy!" became a catch-phrase for us that we would shout gleefully every time Obama delivered one of his inspiring speeches or won another state in the primaries (after Super Tuesday--we were Edwards supporters before he dropped out and we found out he'd been cheating on his terminally ill wife).
This is a very amusing video of various Rev. Manning anti-Obama sermons set to 50 Cent's "P.I.M.P" Enjoy!!
Wednesday, November 05, 2008
President Mack Daddy
To all the chumps who thought tonight would be close and that there would be no landslide, I say this:
Put THAT in your pipe and smoke it!!!!
Okay, you had to give me that one moment of unabashed gloating.
Tobin was kicking like crazy during McCain's concession speech. I'd like to think it was his little victory dance. I didn't cry nearly as much tonight as I thought I might. I only began leaking when Obama told the story of the 106 year old woman in Atlanta who had lived to see women and blacks finally obtain the right to vote, an end to segregation and the advent of civil rights and, sweetest of all, an African American man elected president. I just hope someone records her life story before it's too late. It must be a phenomenal one.
I feel rather guilty for not having to wait in line at the polling booth today, and I'd like to thank every single American who spent hours in line today and last week to vote in this momentous election. Your patience, dedication and perseverance paid off. You are the embodiment of "Real America." God bless you.
Tuesday, November 04, 2008
FINALLY!!!
I thought I'd have something profound or monumental to say. Nope. Just glad it's here. The Democrats are on the verge of a sweeping victory, and I will be watching with baited breath tonight as this--fingers crossed--unfolds.
I've never felt so strongly about a presidential candidate in my entire life. Not even my beloved Bubba. I was so happy to waddle into the booth this morning with Tobin in my belly. I can't believe he'll be almost 4 years old the next time we do this!
He'll be old enough to go into the booth with me, rather than in me. Unless he goes in with Daddy, of course, which he's welcome to do. I'm totally OK with that being a father/son ritual. He can even push the "Cast Vote" button at the end, assuming we still live in New Jersey and still have the same booths.
There is nothing in this world I want more right this second than for Tobin to be born with Barack Obama as president. With any luck, he'll be in office for the first 8 years of Tobe's life. I want my son's first impression of government to be a positive one; to know that his government and, most importantly, his president cares about the American people and wants each and every one of them to enjoy the same rights and privileges once reserved for the rich, white few.
This hit home the other night when I had my first Obama dream. Obama and I were walking along talking about the future. I don't remember much of the dialogue. I just remember looking him dead in the eye and telling him point blank that I did not want to live in an America where he wasn't president. I really don't want my son to live in such an America either.
Not that the family would pack up and move to another country if he doesn't win, I just think an Obama loss would be a terrible loss for America, and a crippling shame. Besides, the only 2 places I'd consider moving would be Canada or France. I find Canadians largely boring and the French kinda smarmy (no offense, eh, mes amis?). In the end, I'd still pick France, if only for the wine.
Lord willin' an' the creek don't rise, I'll be following this post with a victory post tomorrow or late this evening. Regardless the outcome, I'm thankful to Barack Obama for filling me to bursting with hope and optimism, and reigniting my flagging passion for the democratic process after the election debacles of 2000 and 2004.
Thank you, Barack, you long-legged mack daddy!!! I hope to be calling you President Mack Daddy before the day is through.
Sunday, November 02, 2008
My Strategy to End The War in Iraq
Phase 1: Immediate withdrawal of all military troops currently stationed in Iraq.
Phase 2: Deployment of thousands of Girl Scout troops to Iraq to distribute delicious cookies door to door.
Phase 3: Deployment of thousands of Boy Scout troops to Iraq to work alongside the Girl Scouts and Iraqis to rebuild Iraq's infrastructure.
I call this "Operation Thin Mint."
- The removal of military troops will assure the Iraqis that our intent is not, nor was it ever, to remain in their country as an occupying force for decades to come. The US is dedicated to helping Iraq become a prosperous democratic nation.
- The door to door distribution of delectable cookies is a gesture of good faith to reinforce this support.
- The employment of Iraqi civilians to rebuild their infrastructure with the aid and oversight of the BSA and GSA will create much needed jobs for those who have been unemployed since the war's inception.
- As an added bonus to the American taxpayer, we will save billions of dollars that would otherwise be paid to government contractors by paying the scouts solely in merit badges.
- Once the Iraqi infrastructure has been restored and citizens across the nation have dependable electricity and refrigeration, they will receive an additional shipment of Thin Mint cookies for immediate placement in their now-functional freezers. Nothing better than Thin Mints right out of the freezer. Mmmmmmm...
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Day of Good News!!!
First, I had my bi-weekly visit to the OB this morning. She confirmed that the baby has indeed dropped, but that my cervix is still locked up tighter than Fort Knox, so the little man might just make it to my tentatively scheduled delivery date:
I should receive confirmation of the date at my next visit. When I called Ethan to tell him the news, his initial response was "Oh, man." I think it became all to real to him once the date was (tentatively) fixed.
I celebrated by going to Target to buy slippers and travel-sized toiletries and all the other crap I need for my hospital bag.
And then, to top it off, the Phillies won the World Series in game 4. One of my earliest memories is of them winning the series in 1980. I never thought I'd have to wait 28 years to see them do it again.
With Mr. T's arrival and the Phillies winning the series, Obama winning the election next Tuesday would be the hat trick of all hat tricks, if I can mix my sports. Hopefully 2008 will be nothing but good things right through the end. I could use a few good months in a row!